I Think I’m Nervous

1st March, 2010 - Posted from janebeard

Think again.

We’ve found that most speakers – even the seriously, can’t-get-a-deep-breath-afraid-I-might-throw-up speakers – ALSO are looking forward to some aspect of the presentation.

Mixed in with the anxiety, in other words, is anticipation. Sometimes eagerness.

The thing is, anxiety and anticipation can show up in similar ways. Your heart beat picks up. Your hands can start to sweat. Your body starts pumping out chemicals that feel distracting and the opposite of what you think you are SUPPOSED to be feeling: Calm. Zen. Placid. Focused.

Except…you aren’t SUPPOSED to be feeling anything but what is really going on. The minute you start to tell your brain that what you are feeling is a problem — in fact, the SECOND you start to tell your brain that you have a problem — your brain and body will start sending the chemicals that match and feed anxiety.

Even if what you really felt was anticipation, not anxiety.

It’s simple to distinguish the difference between nervousness and nerviness. Between anxiety and anticipation.

Just ask your body and brain, “which is this?” If you are in touch enough to be feeling stuff zipping around your body, you are in touch enough to get the answer.

For some, the answer will feel like a gut reaction: “Oh, it’s both.” Or, “Oh, its some of both but mostly anticipation.”

For some, the answer will float up like a thought. Others will “hear” an answer, like someone is giving you the answer to a test. Still others will get a picture of themselves as nervous or anxious or both – like they are seeing themselves outside themselves.

However you get the answer, take it as true. Don’t second guess it.

And when the answer is that what you are feeling is a mixture of several emotions, just say YES to the experience.

Know that you don’t have to worry about any of the emotions – even the part that is not what’s call positive. Just acknowledge the answer, thank your body/brain/spirit intersection for giving it to you (as in literally say “I get it and thank you, body/brain/spirit for giving it me”).

Tell it’s okay to give you that feeling. That you can hold that feeling AND STILL BE OKAY. Because it’s true.

Then notice how much more grounded and centered you feel, now that you know WHAT you are feeling.