The Power-Draining, Soul-Sucking Scourge of the Statement Necklace

19th June, 2014 - Posted from janebeard

“My awesome necklace” is never the answer to the question, “What’s the one thing you most want the audience to remember from your talk?”

But that’s exactly what audiences most remembered after hearing some recent talks by otherwise smart women. In the name of “standing out” or “being my best self,” these women undercut the power of their own message and mission by insisting on wearing a Statement Necklace for their high-stakes presentation.

And the most common feedback they each heard “What a gorgeous necklace!”

That’s fine for a cocktail party. But if we, in the audience, leave the meeting thinking about your taste in jewelry instead of how we can use the content you’ve just delivered, you’ve just wasted everyone’s time.

[And, Men, stick with this post. Because you have an equivalent here.]

Women, I know you feel that wearing a Statement Necklace conveys important information about you. It becomes your style, your brand, your differentiator, your signal to the world to take a second look at the power of YOU.

Audiences are easily distracted by shiny objects, literal and metaphorical. Don’t dangle them before us when you need us to HEAR what you’re saying, and then act on your message.

When you’re giving a talk, you want us to leave talking about your message and the thing you want us to DO. Wear a Statement necklace, and we leave talking about it instead

That goes for the Power Watch, the funky socks and Technicolor ties men wear, trying to stand out.

The day of your presentation, dress so that your message impresses. You don’t have dress down and look dull. In the words of style guru Liana Chaouli, you just don’t want your clothes (or jewelry, or hair) to enter the room before you do.

As a leader, your statement has to be about something bigger than your style. The Statement Necklace is a big drain on your personal power. Leave it at home the next time you address an audience. That’s how we’ll hear, feel and act on the REAL statement you want to make.